Background check fiasco

Evan, Mel, Leslie - 4/12/2011

My step-dad has gone off the deep end. No, I am not exaggerating in the least. If you're the kind of person who likes sitcoms, you'd love my very neurotic (yet very loveable) step-dad. Somehow he found the name of the guy I went out with a few weekends ago. To this day, me and my mom don't even know how he figured it out. But he did. Remember - I went out on one date with the guy. I was honest with my parents, didn't hide the fact he was a bit older and had a kid. I didn't tell them his name, of course, because I know my mom and step-dad too well. Anyways, I stopped by my step-dad Monday night and we were just casually discussing things and I laughed and was like, "so, did mom tell you what she did?" (Referring to how she introduced herself to him.) All of a sudden Brian went looney! Not even kidding. He started freaking out talking about how he was a woman abuser and I was going to end up in a dumpster. Turns out, he did a background check on him. Needless to say, I was furious. I stormed into my mom's bedroom, with steam coming out of my nostrils, telling them to stay out of my life. I know, I know, that's a little over the top and my step-dad was just trying to protect me, but really? It was one date. My mom was thoroughly upset with my step-dad as well. She told him earlier (that night) at their marriage counseling session that he crossed the line by doing that. And what did he do? He told me!




After what my step-dad said, I turned on my laptop and searched the guy myself on the Wisconsin circuit court site. In 2006 he had a battery charge. But that was five years ago and it didn't say domestic violence so who knows, it could've been a bar fight or something. That didn't bother me as much as this one did: he is divorced. You're probably thinking, "well, Leslie, he does have a kid..." but there's a lot of people who have kids and were never married. I should've learned he was previously married from him, not from my step-dad. So now I'm not sure what to do! Should I be mad he didn't tell me sooner? But that's not exactly a first date topic. Or something you casually mention via text or phone. It's still bothersome though. It was hard to processes at first. I just kept thinking, "this is totally not something I ever envisioned myself having to deal with." He asked me out again for this Saturday and I accepted before the whole background check fiasco. But now, I'm not sure what to do! I enjoyed his company a lot on the first date and doubt I'd be reconsidering seeing him again if I hadn't found out he was divorced. I think I'll still go, I mean, maybe he doesn't even consider it a date? Wouldn't that be something - I'm sitting here all up in arms and he's seeing it as just a casual dinner between friends. But really, when you reach this age how often is a guy and a girl going out for a nice dinner just "casual"? Even me and my best guy friend, Devon, who has been one of my closest friends for nearly five years now and we talk just about every day, usually just go out for a quick meal and we split the bill. (My mom keeps saying I should fall in love with Devon and marry him.)

Back to my step-dad falling off the deep end. Every five minutes he's calling or checking in, saying how much he loves us, saying he's worried, yada yada yada, etc. etc. etc. My mom says he's stressed about retiring and entering a new stage in life. And with me grown up, everything is changing. Apparently they were having a discussion on what would happen if I decided to move far away. Then he kept badgering her about her loving him. It's like, "yes, Brian, we both love you. Now stop being so neurotic." And, first of all, I still have no clue what I'm going to school for yet. Second of all, it's not looking like I'll be tying the knot any time soon.  And lastly, I'm cheap. Just like wild animals don't venture far from their water source, I'm not going to venture far from mine in the near future. I'm going to leech off my parents for as long as I can. I figure I'll repay them one day by putting them in a nice nursing home.

Well, time to hit the gym. I did okay so far this week considering my allergies are kicking my butt. Then I'm going to get a hot chocolate and quickly cram for my test tonight in history.

Monday: 1.5 miles on treadmill.
Tuesday: Rest day
Wednesday: 4 miles on treadmill, .5 miles on elliptical thing

Happy 21st to one lovely lady - 4/12/2011